What if I'm being cremated?
Updated: Oct 20, 2022
Cremation is rapidly becoming more and more common, especially in more heavily populated areas where space is limited. Cremation is more affordable than traditional burial and leaves behind a smaller footprint. In today's day and age, many families live separated across the country. Often times I hear people say, "I don't need a headstone, I'm just going to be cremated." This is perfectly understandable, especially if you want your ashes to be spread in specific special locations. Why would you need a memorial? Here are a few reasons and options you might not have considered.
Memorialization Matters. Create a permanent memorial to you with your name on it somewhere. While it might not seem like a big deal, real estate and possessions trade hands, or can be lost or stolen. There is a peace of mind some family members have knowing there is a specific place with a tribute to you. They might choose to never visit it, but in the back of their minds they know they can if they decide to in the future, and that time may come. Recently I visited my family cemetery where my dad's family is buried. I haven't been there since I was young and was surprised how moved I was to visit their graves. Grief is a unique healing process for each individual. We spend a lifetime remembering those we've loved and lost. Memorialization is a means of healing and remembering.
You have a variety of options now. Many cemeteries have cremation gardens you can buy a niche in. A plaque on the outside of the niche is engraved with your name and what you choose to add, and you have the option of placing some or all of the cremated remains inside. You can also purchase a family columbarium designated specifically for your own family members.
Cremation monuments have hollowed out spaces that house cremated ashes as another option. Some families choose to keep some of the cremated ashes for spreading, keepsake urns and cremation jewelry, and then place a portion of the ashes in the monument. Again, this establishes a permanent memorial and lasting tribute for your family members. Grief is after all, about the ones left behind. You can choose from simple cremation bevel markers and boulders to more elaborate benches.
Looking for something more creative? Cremation pedestals and bird baths can be engraved and placed in gardens or in cemeteries. They also have hollowed out spaces to hold
cremated ashes. Even if you choose to have your ashes buried or spread, you can still buy a grave marker or niche and have your name put on it. This creates a place of remembrance for your loved ones.
Whatever you decide, we would be glad to help you find the perfect memorial as you navigate the many options available.